Many people have goals (whether or not they call them goals), thing they want to achieve in their life for example relationships, work, family or business.
A huge proportion of those people will not achieve their goals for many reasons, maybe their situation changes, perhaps the goal is not right for them … or there are surmountable obstacles in the way that stop people in their tracks.
So why do people not achieve their goal if the obstacle can be overcome? Well sometimes the goal is not right for them and they know it – or the fear of achieving their goal itself can be scary.
- Losing a significant amount of weight and becoming more attractive to others can be scary for some people with low self esteem.
- Moving on after a relationship – starting to date again, worrying that the next relationship will end for similar reasons, e.g. cheating, violence, debts etc
- Working in a job that makes you unhappy – but worried to leave incase you don’t get another job – or fear of taking another job and it not working out.
- Business – setting up on your own and finding that you can’t get clients or sell your products
There are many situations where fear can hold us back but what can we do about it? Firstly acknowledge the fear then take action – books, coaching groups and 1:1 coaching are all great methods that can help you overcome your fears and help you move forward in life and in business.
My tips is:
- Acknowledge the Fear – what exactly are you scared of
- Rate it 1-10 (10 being really scary)
- How ‘real’ is the fear?
- Explore ways you can overcome the fear
- Take Action
- Celebrate you Success at overcoming your Fear.
There are some great books on overing coming fear and self doubt.
Susan Jeffers book ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’ is our Personal Development Book Club title this month (If you are interested – contact us or book your place on Eventbrite)
We also run regular workshops to help you deal with ‘Fear and Self Doubt’ – see Eventbrite for the upcoming sessions.
Eventbrite link to all our sessions: http://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/newcastle-performance-coaching-limited-6295082261
Our 1:1 coaching, workshops and talk sessions run from our office; West Fifteen, Wickham View, Newcastle upon Tyne NE15 6UN
Having set your goals is one thing but keeping focused and on track is quite another thing altogether. If you are not working with a coach or extremely motivated to achieve your goal on time it is easy to lets things slip.
Often when we set goals we are inspired and motivate, keen to achieve whatever it is we want. However it is easy to sit back and expect things to happen, before you know it often time has flown by and little progress has been made. It’s not that we don’t want the goal .. just that it is not as motivating when having set a goal then you have to actually take action to make it happen
Most goals require some form of physical engagement, whether it be to write a book, lose weight, run a marathon, change jobs. It takes a lot of thinking and effort to turn your dream goal into a reality and it is so easy to start making progress then become complacent or become side tracked only to find that time has slipped by and your not making the progress you had planned or have lapsed with the progress you have made.
How best to stay focused and on track:
- Write your goals down, make sure they are SMART goals and have a deadline.
- Next chunk down you goal into smaller, achievable steps – working on one at a time makes it less scary if it is a big goal.
- Chart your progress – it’s motivating to see what you are achieving as you go.
- Work with a Coach – or if that is not possible join a Coaching Group. Meet with other people who have goals they are working on will help you feel motivated as you help and support each other.
If you are interested in our Coaching Groups you will find our sessions listed on Eventbrite
We also run GOALS sessions for people who would like to check in with a coach on a regular basis to keep themselves motivated and on track . https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/got-goals-keeping-focused-and-on-track-tickets-15899401538
Each month we will discuss a coaching, spiritual or personal development book. … Facilitated discussion NOT a debate …
£5 Tea/coffee and biscuits/nibbles are provided.
In each months Book Discussion we will be looking at a different personal development best selling book.
If there are coaching activities in the book well may do some during the session.
Most of these titles are available on audiobook and may be free to listen to on YouTube
Session starts 6:30pm
Session ends 8:30pm
2015 Title Author
January A Mans Search for Meaning Viktor Frankl
February Awaken the Giant Within Anthony Robbins
March Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Susan Jeffers
April Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life Dr Wayne Dyer
May Magic of Thinking Big David J Schwartz
June Eat That Frog Brian Tracy
July As a Man Thinketh James Allen
August The Tipping Point Malcolm Gladwell
September Who Moved my Cheese Spencer Johnson
October 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen R Covey
November How to Win Friends and Influence People Dale Carnegie
December The Power of Now Eckhart Tolle
Venue: Newcastle Performance Coaching Limited, Room 1.3, First Floor, West Fifteen, Whickham View, Newcastle upon Tyne, NE15 6UN
(Entrance door signed Princes Trust – at top of stairs turn left, take the last door on the right and we are in the room opposite)
Please book your ticket on Eventbrite to secure your place, thanks.
Professional People North East are joining up with the Personal Development Circle North East and other meetup groups in the North East for their monthly pub night at the Fox and Hounds in Newcastle this week. Typically we have 15-30 people pop along and have something to eat and drink. It’s very relaxed and informal – so if you are at a loose end why not come along and join us.
Professional People North East is a social group for single professionals in the North East who first and foremost want to build friendships and socialise – meeting someone special for some would be a bonus.
Not all single 40+ people want to hit the dating sites or have a friend, colleague or family member play matchmaker for them. So this group is idea for anyone who would like to get out a bit more, build friendships, socialise with other single professionals.
Great thing is that it’s so cheap to join – £10 a year and if you go to our events then you buy your own food, drinks and tickets so you have control of what you spend and can keep within your financial budget.
What do we do? We are an events website that run pub meals, coffee, cinema, friendship group, restaurants in the North East. Members log in – find out what events are on and if they want to go they click the RSVP button to let other members know they will be going – simple!!!
Where do we meet? Newcastle and Gateshead mainly however any member can add a social event to our calendar so if you are in Sunderland, Durham, Tyne Valley, Northumberland that’s fine – just pop up an event on our website (its free to add you own things) at your local pub, coffee shop or maybe a walk somewhere nice, dancing lessons, or whatever interests you. See who comes along and maybe you will be a new friend or 10.
Join us today … Professional People North East http://www.meetup.com/Professional-People-North-East
The Personal Development Circle North East if for people who are interested in their personal self development, they have regular sessions most weeks. Workshops are called ‘Cafes’ as they are relaxed, informal and there’s plenty coffee/tea to be had. Sessions include life coaching, building positive relationships, improving confidence and self esteem, engaging the Law of Attraction, Spirituality, NLP, stress, stress management, time management and more. At only £15 a year for membership which gives access to so many workshops and discussion groups (many discounted to PDCNE members) this website is well worth checking out.
Find out more: Personal Development Circle North East http://www.meetup.com/Personal-Development-Circle-North-East
Both groups are sponsored by Newcastle Performance Coaching Limited http://www.geordie-coach.com a coaching, training and consultancy business that works with Professional People in the North East to bridge the gap to their success.
Are you single and over 40? Looking to vary your social life a bit and make new friends?
Join Professional People North East today.
Our next social is this evening in Newcastle city centre. A drink then onto a meal.
Limited numbers so members can get to know each other.
See website for details
Professional People North East are out tonight for a meal on Newcastle Quayside, as with many of our events there are only 8 places available. Why? So members get to know each other and build friendships.
Professional People North East is a great group to join if you are single, professional and over 40. We’re not a dating group! It’s about building friendships and making connections with other mature single people in a relaxed setting.
If you are interested in meeting people, building friendships, doing something a little different why not check out our website and join us sometime?
We are a members led group – dining, meals, coffee, breaks, comedy … members are able to add their own events too 😀
Tonights event can be found here: http://www.meetup.com/Professional-People-North-East/events/172621662
Come along to our group coaching sessions and join with others working on our 2014 goals. If you are interested in working with a coach and would like to join a supportive group session check out this regular meeting.
22 March 2014 from 1pm to 3pm
venue – Wallsend Memorial Hall and Peoples Centre in Wallsend (parking & metro station nearby).
Session is brought to you by Newcastle Performance Coaching sponsors of the Personal Development Circle North East.
In this Group Coaching session we are looking at The 6 Human Needs. (Certainity, Variety, Signification, Love & Conection, Growth and Contribution) and also the 4 Classes of Human Experience.
Group coaching and interactive session.
£15 payment on the day (cash only thanks) – includes refreshments
please pre-book your place either on our website http://www.meetup.com/Personal-Development-Circle-North-East/events/168233272/ or on our Eventbrite page http://personal-development-circle-north-east.eventbrite.co.uk/
The secret to success often rests with setting great goals … but why should we set goals?
We spend so much of time thinking about what is happening in our life – good and bad – and often wanting things to be changed but not sure what we want instead. Whatever aspect of our lives it is (family / friendships / career / wellbeing / money etc) there is something that we would want to change.
So how does change start? Well a good place is in setting goals!
There are many benefits of goal setting.
Goals are like having an in-built Sat Nav – your goals will take to in a direction you have chosen and for which you want to go. Setting goals is about articulating your vision (whether in words, pictures, symbols or a combination of). Your vision will take you on a path to reality and when you have achieved the goal, you improve your life and become a better version of yourself – your confidence and self esteem will increase as you appreciate and acknowledge your achievements.
Focusing on the important things
When you set goals you are sorting out your priorities – deciding what is most important to you and what can wait. By focusing your time and efforts on what you want to achieve you are more likely to achieve your goals.
You will make reasoned decisions
Once your Goals have been identified when opportunties come along you are more likely to make the right decisions in line with your goals and medium / long term plans.
You are more likely to achieve you goal sooner
If you remain focused on your goals and keep them in mind. You will have a focused approach to life and are more likely to concentrate your time, finances and energy with less likelihood in being distracted.
Be confident, be enthusiastic
When you set goals they need to be specific so you can measure your progress. As you near your goal and monitor your profess this will improve your confidence, keep you motivated and enthusiastic about achieving the final stage which marks your success.
Each time you achieved one goal, you will want to set more goals in the knowledge you can get there. Subsequent goals are often harder to achieve and require more effort. As you have achieved some goals there is no reason why you cannot go on to bigger and better things with higher goals.
You are closer to success
Every step you take towards your goals is a step nearer to success.
Remember to reward your efforts along the way.
How to set goals
This is easy. Setting goals that motivate and inspire you to achieve is a tad harder. Come along to our Coaching Cafe Goals workshop – set some compelling goals and start on your journey to success.
In the Coaching Club workshop I will take you through the art of setting goals, identify which goals are key to your personal success right now.