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I love solving puzzles, I have loads of puzzles books, sudoku, wordsearches, love online puzzle games and think Nintendo DS’s ‘word coach’ is simply brilliant. I love doing puzzles and problem solving with my young daughter; its great getting a jizsaw out and working through until it is completed. When I was growing up one of my favourite things to do was sitting with my mam doing big and complex jigsaws (mainly sky and sea from what I recall, nightmare to do, hugely satisfying to complete).
As a coach I know we are all solving our very own life puzzles daily and love working with my coaching clients on theirs. Each day in whatever we do we are looking to solve our own life puzzles, some are far more complex and challenging than others, solving the easier ones gives us the confidence and ability to take on the challenges of the greater ones.
Some of us search for meaning and fulfillment in our lives, a desire to find our true life purpose – is that you? Others focus on the challenges of motherhood, overwhelm, frustration, finances, relationships, careers and employment. What is the greatest challenge that you have at present and have you taken any steps to solve the challenging puzzle your are experiencing?
Finding a solution to your challenges will help you acieve your goals, improve confidence and find success.
How do we find success? To start with you identify your goal (the big picture on the jigsaw box), put the structure in place (corners and edge pieces) then work on the fine detail (the middle pieces) and with a focused, action focused approach you will find the right solution and achieve the success you desire.
Take from what you learn about yourself, your skills and abilities and use them on the next challenge in life or business that comes to you. Each puzzle you solve will equip you will tools you can utilize in the future.
To your success.
Stress has always been a part of our lives. In this hectic time, people lead an increasingly stressful life. Experts state that a little stress can be good; it keeps you sharp and ready to move forward, and is sometimes vital for achieving optimum performance. Medical research has found that prolonged stress is very bad for the body, and can block the body’s natural ability to repair, regenerate and protect itself. Over 90% of disease is caused by stress. Stress is both a physical and psychological response. It can lead to chronic disease, obesity, insomnia, deteriorating relationships, depression, and more.
Stress is such a powerful and harmful force that it is vital that you learn effective stress management techniques to live a successful, happy, and healthy life. We must remember that we will always come across inevitable factors that cause pressure and anxiety on us. What we do not know is that it is not really the problems that are difficult to deal with, but our attitude towards them. So basically, the cause of stress is your attitude toward these things. What, then, is an effective way to deal with stressors?
Below are 5 great tips to handle stress.
1. Identify what makes you stressful and uneasy.
Making a list of your stressful experiences is useful. Immediately deal with the issues that you can change, for instance waking up earlier for college or university in the morning, not leaving things till the last minute, and delegating tasks in case you are taking responsibility for everything. Forget about the issues that you cannot influence like being stuck in a traffic jam or not getting into the elevator because there is no room for you.
2. Calm down.
A few minutes break would do you good. Wash your face, breath slowly and deeply, and notice if there is tension in any part of your body and release it. You can also listen to relaxing music, or call a friend. Releasing your inner feelings to a friend is healthy option.
3. It will pass and it will be over before you know it.
Remind yourself that the stressful event will end sooner or later can make you see the positive sides of things. At the same time, calm down your emotions and think of what is the best thing to do rather than take your energy away from what needs to be done.
4. Know yourself.
Ask yourself: What triggers your anxiety? If for example it is your job, then maybe it’s time for you to reconsider whether it would be best to find a less stressful job. You can also make your job more tolerable by allowing yourself to get that needed vacation or leave.
5. Learn to use your relaxation response.
Just as we all have within us the stress response, we also have an opposite response, which is the relaxation response. A person should elicit that on a regular basis. The relaxation response involves two steps. Repetition, the repetition can be a word, a sound, an expression, or a repetitive movement. The second step is to ignore other thoughts that come to your mind while you’re doing the repetition, and come back to the repetition. The technique should be used once or twice a day for about 15 minutes. Sit quietly and choose a suitable repetition, like a prayer, the sound Om, or the word love, or calm. Or you can do a repetitive exercise, for instance yoga, jogging, Reiki. Additional repetitive activities are knitting or handicraft. When you incorporate this into your everyday life, you become calmer and better able to handle the stressors. Practice makes perfect and the more you practice relax your mind, the easier it gets.
The true causes of stress are not the problems or negative experiences that you encounter in your life; but your attitude toward them. So, the trick is to change your attitude and to develop a relaxed state, because you cannot be stressed and relaxed at the same time. It is important to understand that what we focus on, we energize. The more you continue to think about the factors that cause your stress, the more energy you give it. So it is vital to let go and focus on relaxation instead. Consequently, you’re less likely to be upset by a stressor, and thus less likely to have its harmful effect occur. Eventually, it is your choice. You could either continue to react in the same stressful way, or you could choose to improve your life by changing your attitude and becoming relaxed. There’s no other way around it.
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Publish Date: 07/26/2010 22:32
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Full Article:Spring Clean Your Life | Corinne Ellison
To spring clean your life, sit down and analysis where you have come in the first 3 months of this year. Where you want to be in 3 months, 6 months and by the end of December? How will you take steps to reach these goals ( adding in positive actions)? What can you remove from your life that is hindering you in some way? This may be removing yourself from difficult family member, non-helpful friend, seeking helping to change a negative mindset about a certain aspect of your life e.g. work stress, exercise or a relationship problem. Indulge yourself with some counselling, coaching, yoga or find a partner to take up a new hobby. April is perfect for getting out and blowing away the cobwebs of the British winter.
Dust off your pride, clean out the cupboards within your mind and give your body a blast to set you up for a wonderful 2010!
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On Friday when I picked my daughter up from school she had a postcard in her back for the School Attendance Challenge Initiative by Newcastle City Council, Debenhams and Eldon Square. It runs for the month of March.
The 100% Attendance challenge is to attend school every day and arrive on time throughout the month of March to have a chance to win one of twenty £50 gift cards.
Basically this was a promotion postcard as Eldon Square and Debenhams are supporting Newcastle Education Welfare Service to celebrate the opening of Debenhams flagship store in Eldon Square, Newcastle.
“Gaining a good education through regular school attendance is the key to the best possible life chances and future success”.
As you have to add your child’s school details it is fair to assume this is a City Wide prize draw, so the chance of winning the prize draw is pretty slim. Also, just to made sure you do not cheat and say that you have achieved a 100% attendance with no late starts the postcard lets you know that your childs attendance records will be confirmed with the school.
So how did we fare today? Well, my daughter has 2 very slack front teeth and a sore throat so getting breakfast in her so we could leave the house was very problematic. However, we were out on time and all was good but the car was frozen over, the automatic wing mirrors on the XF did not go into place so I took longer to get to school than usual because of the icy conditions.
We arrived after the 8.55 bell but before 9 AM. Welcomed at the school gate by the Education Department of the Newcastle City Council who were collecting names of late attendees. Although my daughter would have been in class before the register was taken and did not have to go through the late door as the school main entrance doors were open and she went straight inside with a string of other kids she has ‘failed’ the challenge on day one.
Is it really in the spirit of things for the Newcastle City Council Education Department for day 1 of the initiative to be collecting names at school gates??? I was back home before 9.05 and writing this. Hardly that late a start but what sign does that make for my daughter, hardly her fault that she was minutes late for school due to things outside of her control and her ability to enter the prize draw lost already.
So what do the Education Department do with the names they collect at the school gates? There were plenty of other late arrivals coming in as I left the school. Well apparently they monitor late arrivals and lack of attendance as factors as to whether to take parents to court!!!